My brother is sleeping with a sugar momma

Dear Pastor,

I am 17 years old and I am living with my parents and a brother. My brother is 18 years old and he told me that he has a girlfriend. My brother is very brilliant.

His girlfriend is married, but her husband is not treating her well. He told me that when she was pregnant, he thumped her, so she hates him.

She is always talking to my brother and telling him how much she loves him. I told my brother that he should keep away from her, but he is still talking to her.

Pastor, I know that they had sex because my brother showed me the text that she sent to him. This woman's husband is a bad man and I know that he would hurt my brother.

My brother is not working and she gives him money all the time. She works at a doctor's office. I want her to leave my brother alone.

I called her on the phone, but I only asked her if she knew my brother. She tried to find out who was calling, but I did not say anything.

I told my brother what I did and he told me to keep out of his business. Do you think that I should not say anything anymore? This woman is about 38 years old.

F.E.

Dear F.E.,

A word to the wise is sufficient, but your brother is not wise. He has got himself involved with this married woman and he should know that he is playing with fire.

It is not unusual for a married woman to be sexually involved with a young man. Young men who are your brother's age take delight in having affairs with these women, especially when the women are able to give them money.

This woman feels safe in having this young man as her lover. She is doing so probably because she doesn't feel that anyone would suspect that she is having an affair with such a young man.

As I respond to your letter, I am re minded of a young man whose mother brought him to see me. He was having a sexual relationship with a prominent Jamaican woman, even while he was in high school. Her husband did not have a clue that this boy was having sex with his wife.

This woman would make reservations at a hotel in New Kingston, book in, and the young man would go and spend time with her, and she would pay him for his time.

After many hours, she would go home to her husband. So, my dear young sister, it might be wise for you to inform your parents about what your brother is doing.

By so doing, you are saving your brother from trouble. He might get angry with you, but it won't be for ever. Do so before it is too late.

Pastor