Two women want me

I have written to you more than once and your bits of advice have worked over time. I have a new problem that I need some help with.

I have been involved with a woman since last July. I am 26 and she is 33. I spend most, if not all my time with her.

When we just started talking, she said that she was with an older man but they didn't spend much time together.

As time went by, things started to get more intense because it started out with sex at motels, then I would go to her place and have sex and leave late at nights.

Then it got to a point where I would spend the night. But now, it is as if we live together. I love her because she is very caring.

She started washing my clothes and from that moment, she would even get vexed when I didn't take my clothes to wash. She always levels with me.

Back in November, she said that she met another man who lives in the US. She said that the man came to the store where she works and that they exchanged numbers and he sent her money since that time.

DIDN'T LIVE WITH ANY MAN

She said that she told the man that she was not living with any man.

Recently, I met this other girl who works next door to my office. She is really beautiful. We started talking and we pretty much like each other.

She lives with her man, but she said that she is not getting much love or attention from him because he would leave and not come back until late, or sometimes he does not come in at all.

Anyway, I just keep it simple with her. Whenever she gets free time when she is at home, she calls and we talk.

The girl I am living with now, her family treats me well. Whenever I am there, I don't have to lift a straw; all I make sure I do is to always help her son and her nephew with schoolwork.

She recently said that she wants to finish her house and that the man wants to help her, so he is coming to Jamaica, and she is confused because she does not want me to go anywhere.

The other girl wants to get rid of her man and get serious with me.

Pastor, what are your suggestions?

O.W

Dear O.W.,

I think you are trying to say that you are the hottest man in town and you are not running after women, they are running after you.

If what you are saying about these girls is true, you shouldn't be proud of them, because they are cheap and you don't have any high standard, either.

You are encouraging them to fool around with men and you are enjoying what they get from these men.

So, you shouldn't even talk about what they are doing, because what goes around comes back around. You think highly of yourself, but believe me, you are not a good man.

It is time that you see yourself as a player. A man should not encourage women to take money from other men so that he can benefit.

Pastor