Boyfriend told me to kill myself

Dear Pastor,

I am a woman who has been used. My boyfriend of three years used me and crashed my BMW that I lent him because he didn't have a car. I fixed it when he messed it up the first time because I wanted to sell it. Now, he has damaged it totally. He needed money to borrow constantly. I've lent him because I felt that if I was in need and I had a man, I would want him to help me.

He was very abusive to me physically, emotionally and mentally. He has now left me for another woman. He ran up my cell phone bill to $800. I turned his phone off, and now he has found someone to get him a new phone and a new car. I'm hurting inside. I feel like someone stabbed me in my chest. I can't eat, I can't sleep, and I'm torn. I was investing in this man, and he told me that he wanted to marry me, but the following week he is gone with another woman. He told me he is done with me, and I should go and kill myself.

Please, keep me in your prayers.

M.

Dear M.,

I regret hearing that your boyfriend was involved in a collision and your BMW was damaged. I hope that the insurance assisted you in getting it repaired. Evidently, you love this man very much because; you allowed him to drive it again, and for the second time, he damaged the vehicle. I get the impression that the damage was worse than the first time.

I hate to think that this man used you and that his real motive while he was with you was to get financial benefits from you. That is how it appears. How could he say that he loves you? He told you that he would marry you, but that was just to keep you quiet and to get more money out of you. He is a very wicked man.

I suggest that you seek the help of a family counsellor. You need therapy. You do not want to have this man back in your life, but the pain you feel may last for a long time. So seek professional help, and try your very best not to be used by another man in the future.

Pastor